Post-birthday run-down

Yesterday was my birthday. No, you didn’t miss my post about it. The past few years I have decided not to tell people, not to make a big demand on the world to pay attention to me.

This has limited success, because deep down, actually an inch or so down, I want the world to pay attention to me. So I often just feel sad and sulky. But it’s interesting because I got phone calls and emails and cards and a couple of presents. And I still felt sorry for myself.

Loneliness isn’t about other people. I am lonely because I feel lonely. It’s a perfect tautology. I could be surrounded by people, and as long as I maintain my sadness that is exactly how I will feel. So, although I recognize that my strategy (secretly designed to facilitate any surprise parties that may be, but are not actually, in the offing) isn’t working, I nonetheless appreciate the introspection of time spent alone with my wildly misguided hopes and expectations.

Anyway, fuck that bag. I took myself out to dinner and had big quantities of sushi and hot sake and yes, that does make a girl feel better and indeed, quite celebratory.

Yay me. Congratulations on yet another successful turning 39.

8 comments

  1. paula says:

    Happy belated birthday, “Grandma”!
    (with Love from John & Paula)

  2. Cosette says:

    Happy belated birthday, Deb.

  3. Barbs says:

    I’m glad you went out and celebrated. Birthdays just arent a big deal anymore for me. Remember what you told me years ago? Don’t have any expections, then if someone remembers it is a gift you didn’t expect

    Love and Kisses, Can’t wait to see you this summer

  4. deblipp says:

    Thanks all!

  5. Jaspenelle says:

    Sushi, you said the magic word…
    Still going to say happy belated birthday to you ya know 😉

  6. Roberta says:

    Want to see evidence of tremendous growth?

    It only JUST occurred to me to have a problem with the 39 thing as it relates to me.

    Not bad, ay?

    (and THAT is an example of how I crack myself up.)

  7. deblipp says:

    I thought you would want to be the oldest. 🙂