This should be shared far and wide.
When you approach me in public, you are Schrödinger’s Rapist. You may or may not be a man who would commit rape. I won’t know for sure unless you start sexually assaulting me. I can’t see inside your head, and I don’t know your intentions. If you expect me to trust you—to accept you at face value as a nice sort of guy—you are not only failing to respect my reasonable caution, you are being cavalier about my personal safety.
Fortunately, you’re a good guy. We’ve already established that. Now that you’re aware that there’s a problem, you are going to go out of your way to fix it, and to make the women with whom you interact feel as safe as possible.
Read the whole thing.
http://zaskoda.com/2009/10/12/a-response-to-women-regarding-starlings-schrodinger’s-rapist/
Poor mens, you are so put upon. Let’s just be clear that 80% of rape victims are female, and 92% of rape perpetrators are male, so my sympathy is limited.