Pagan Census: Let your voice be heard

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Tuesday Trivia: You’re on your own

This is a round robin. I am really busy at work. Go wild.

Southeastern Mass. Pagan Pride

Yesterday I attended Southeastern Massachusetts Pagan Pride Day in Lakeville, Mass. The weather was unexpectedly gorgeous, which was awkward for me, since I was overdressed and had a little difficulty with the sun.

It was a lovely event. There was a constant flow of music and dance, and quite a few workshops (I did two). The merchanting was lovely, with a great array of handcrafts, ritual objects, and other delights. My books sold well, which always makes me a very happy witch.

The camp was also hosting a local football game (high school, I think) so there were periodic visits by confused and curious cheerleaders.

I decided to leave early, as the main ritual began, because of my 3 1/2 hour drive, and just as I got into my car the sky opened up and the rain began, so I felt pretty fortunate.

The hosts were very nice to me and helpful, which I always appreciate. And I met several readers whom I only knew online, so that was awesome.

The best part though, was reuniting with a former student whom I haven’t seen in more than fifteen years. She’s grown from a feisty teenager to a lovely woman in that time, and I cannot tell you how awesome, how fulfilling, it was to see her. And she hugged me and told me how much I had meant to her, and I am all teary-eyed just thinking about it.

The drive was not that bad; there was a short stretch where visibility was seriously impaired by the rain, but I still was home by 8:30 and got right into my nightie, ate chips, and watched TV. Ahhhhhhh.

September 11, 2009

I have a tattoo of the Twin Towers on my right arm—fairly prominent, about 3 1/2 inches high. Often, strangers stop me to talk about my tattoos, and usually, since 9/11, this is the one they notice. The most common question I get is “Did you lose somebody?”

This used to surprise me. We all lost somebody. We all lost every one of the victims. I hope it takes nothing away from the people who lost spouses, partners, children, parents, and beloved friends and relatives, to say that the collective loss is profound.

We all lost somebody.

People had all sorts of reactions: Fear, rage, panic, numbness. I was, and remain, deeply sad. The hole in Ground Zero remains a hole in my heart.

My all those who lost their lives that day be at peace. May their loved ones be comforted. Let all those who sacrificed so much, physically and emotionally, in rescue and recovery efforts, be acknowledged and healed. May all of us pause for a moment to reflect upon all that we take for granted, and how swiftly it can change.

Actor role trivia solutions

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Marion Weinstein: Born again

I have just learned that Marion Weinstein, author of Positive Magic, has passed into the Summerland. May she be born again, at the same time, and in the same place, as those who love her.

Positive Magic was a sweetness-and-light book that I have often criticized, but there’s one kick-ass spell in it that I have recommended many times.

On a personal note, it was through Marion’s help that Isaac was able to get diagnosed with the chronic illness he has. This was in 1990, when we were still married and the parents of a really cute new baby. Isaac had been getting a run-around from doctors who were uninterested in his very weird symptoms, when we read an article about a rare disease in Marion’s newsletter. The symptoms matched Isaac perfectly. He called Marion and she connected him to the author. The author had this sort of tone that I could hear from across the room; doctors can’t love getting calls from hypochondriacs who think they have whatever disease they’ve read about most recently. Clearly she thought this was just such a call, but because it was Isaac Bonewits, and because it had come through Marion, she listened. And listened to the point where she realized Isaac was really sick and gave him the information he needed to take to an MD and get diagnosed.

Maybe that isn’t such a big deal, but it meant a lot to us and I’ve always felt fondly towards Marion since then. I am sad to hear of her passing, and hope sincerely that her sojourn in the Summerland is delightful, and that her loved ones find comfort.

Tuesday trivia: Actor roles

Name the actor based on TV and film roles (I can’t tell if these are easy or hard; I’ll give hints if needed):

1. A cop (tv), a shepherd (tv), a friend’s lawyer (tv)
Solved by Tom Hilton.

2. A nun (tv), a bipolar mother (tv), a soap star (movie)
TIE: Solved by Tom Hilton and Melville.

3. A bank employee (movie), an immigrant (tv), a political volunteer working backstage (movie)
Solved by Melville.

4. A bus driver (tv), a sheriff (movie), a pool player (movie)
TIE: Solved by Tom Hilton and Melville.

5. A law firm bigwig (tv), an expatriate (movie), a jazz saxophonist (obscure movie only I have seen)
HINT: A dancer (movies)

6. A medical resident (tv), a wine enthusiast (movie), a lesbian (movie)
Solved by Wendy.

7. A brother-in-law (movie), a reporter for the Boston Globe (tv), an advertising guy (tv)
HINT: God these are such easy clues, I don’t even know what to do with you people. Okay, a television production guy (tv)
Solved by Ben.

Monday Movie Review: Blue Velvet

Blue Velvet (1986) 8/10
When Jeffrey (Kyle MacLachlan) finds a severed human ear in a field, he discovers a world of corruption hiding just past the edges of his peaceful community. Written and directed by David Lynch.

I saw this movie a couple of months ago, and haven’t known what to make of it. Its reputation is so big it almost drowns out the experience of seeing it.

There are ways in which it’s all too heavy-handed. OMGZ! Look! There’s filth underneath the pretty suburb! Laura Dern as Jeffrey’s innocent neighbor is a bit too innocent and too baby doll, Isabella Rossellini is too histrionic, throwing herself to the floor, throwing herself, in fact, pretty much to the exclusion of normal movement. And Dennis Hopper is too Dennis Hopper. It’s a garish movie painted in garish colors; very much a painting, something extreme and splashy and full of symbols for art students to discuss.

And yet the images are striking and remarkable. It’s David Lynch, after all, the master of the strange image, and I’m a believer in movies as a medium of images. I loved Mulholland Dr. and didn’t understand it; I kind of feel like understanding the narrative isn’t always necessary. Maybe it’s usually necessary, but the David Lynches of the world are there to be an exception.

The world that Jeffrey spies on through Dorothy (Rossellini) is so dark as to be incomprehensible. It is perverse, violent, and anarchic. It was really hard for me to follow what was going on with the crime plot, even though some of it was pretty simple in retrospect, but it is seen through the eyes of Jeffrey, to whom it is all foreign. The darkness of it is repulsive, and I am left, as I often am, wondering if I’m the only one actually repulsed by repulsiveness. It seems like Frank Booth (Hopper) is a character everyone loves to quote, as if kidnapping, rape, and murder bring the funny. My take on Booth is he is a nightmare, a “monster from the id,” and not at all funny.

Roger Ebert somewhat famously wrote a one-star review of this film. Although I disagree, I see his point; it’s not complicated to see Blue Velvet as hateful. At some level, though, I think he fundamentally misunderstands.

Isabella Rossellini’s husband and son have been kidnapped by Dennis Hopper, who makes her his sexual slave. The twist is that the kidnapping taps into the woman’s deepest feelings: She finds that she is a masochist who responds with great sexual passion to this situation.

I doubt it. Ebert is saying that first Hopper kidnapped Rossellini’s family, using their captivity to get her to bed, and she ultimately became aroused, despite hating him and hating her arousal. No way.

More likely, Rossellini discovered her S&M desires in a consensual relationship with Booth, perhaps seeking him out because of those desires, and then, when she wanted out, he kidnapped her family in order to keep her enslaved. Like Jeffery, Dorothy wanted to toy with the edge of the dark unknown, but she fell in. She’s Dorothy, stuck in Oz, needing a Wizard to free her.

Ebert hates, and is uncomfortable with, the constant contrasts in this film between “nice” and “perverse,” as embodied by the two women; “nice” Sandy (Laura Dern) and “perverse” Dorothy. He sees the nice as snide and satiric, and the perverse as a straight story (ha! see what I did there?). But carrying around a gas canister to suck on while raping a woman and calling yourself Baby at the top of your lungs is really not normal, and is no less exaggerated than the nicey-nice scenes. Both sides are equally broad, and in a way, equally disturbing. The nice is bad because it isn’t real, the dark because it’s bad, and hyper-real. Our hero, Jeffrey, walks between the two worlds, spying on each, before finally making a choice.

Supporting Actor Trivia all solved

Tricky this week.

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Fun with language and animals

Two things I heard at Mom’s:

“My monkey is stuck.”

“If you want to turn the fan off, pull the fish.”