So You Think You Can Dance & The FAT Guy

Oh NOES! FAT PEOPLE!

…is basically the attitude, right? Scary to even think of a fat person on a dance show. And this guy actually lifted his shirt to show his big fat belly during his dance, so of course that clip made the “coming up” segment before every commercial. Let’s laugh at the fat person!

But I happen to love So You Think You Can Dance so I decided to set aside my strong misgivings about the way fat people are treated and watch the season premiere last night. Overall, it wasn’t a great premiere; a lot more focus on gawking at the losers than at showcasing dance, but let’s get back to Fat Guy.

First, we are gawking at a fat guy. And not just any fat guy, a weird fat guy with a fur hat. Lookie! Fat people can’t dance, they can only do shtick. And that’s a choice. Hundreds upon hundreds of people auditioned; a dozen got shown on TV; fur hat guy was not the only big person who auditioned, so the choice was, let’s show someone laughable.

Second, the judges leap right into OMG FAT WILL KILL YOU. It’s unhealthy. We’re telling you this for your own good.

But there were a couple of things that I actually liked. Crazy, right?

First of all, these judges are choreographers and former dancers, so I have a certain sympathy for any anti-fat prejudice they may have; they are from a world where it is so much the norm, I kind of doubt they’ve been exposed to any alternate views. What Nigel ultimately said to the guy was this: ‘Every dancer’s heart rate goes up when they dance; health is measured by how quickly your heart rate comes back down. And look, you’re still panting. That’s not okay.’

That’s great advise, because it’s not about weight; if he’s fat and not panting that’s healthy, and if he’s thin and panting that’s unhealthy. So yay Nigel.

Finally, Mia pointed out that the guy’s written bio said he didn’t want to be a thin dancer, and she asked him about it, and the conversation got to that he didn’t think he was a good enough dancer to compete with “real” dancers, he just thought his size and costume made him amusing to watch. And Mia engaged that directly, telling him to learn to love himself and not to pigeonhole himself, and that perhaps he could be a great dancer but he needed to let go his own preconceptions and find out. And after the initial question about his size, she never added “and lose weight,” which I thought was miraculous.

Maybe it’s the tyranny of soft expectations. Maybe it’s like being so happy that a woman is allowed to get a job in a traditionally male field that you tolerate the lower pay. But after that offensive promo spot, there was something lovely about engaging with the guy as if he was a real human being. Fancy that.

Constitutional guarantees trump democratic majorities

In an article about gay marriage that refutes a new Republic article by Ben Wittes, Glenn Greenwald reminds me that I find smart people really, really hot:

That a law invalidated by a court is supported by a large majority is not an argument supporting the conclusion that the court’s decision was wrong. Central to our system of government is the premise that there are laws which even the largest majorities are prohibited from enacting because such laws violate the constitutional rights of minorities. Thus, the percentage of people who support the law in question, and how lengthy and painstaking the process was that led to the law’s enactment, is totally irrelevant in assessing the propriety of a court decision striking down that law on constitutional grounds.

Contrary to Wittes’ extremely confused argument, a court striking down a law supported by large majorities is not antithetical to our system of government. Such a judicial act is central to our system of government. That’s because, strictly speaking, the U.S. is not a “democracy” as much as it a “constitutional republic,” precisely because constitutional guarantees trump democratic majorities. This is all just seventh-grade civics, something that the Brookings scholar and those condemning the California court’s decision on similar grounds seem to have forgotten.

(Emphasis in the original.)

The problem, of course, is that we don’t really teach “seventh grade civics” anymore. I kind of wonder if that’s a coincidence. I kind of wonder if destroying our educational system (most recently with No Child Left Behind) is, in fact, part of a Republican strategy to take over America by making Americans too ignorant to know the difference.

But I digress.

Here’s the thing. Minorities have rights. Even unpopular minorities. Even Jews and gays and Witches and blacks and Mormons. Even, y’know, Puritans, who came here because (wait for it) MINORITIES HAVE RIGHTS. And this, this is AGONY for conservatives. Unless, of course, they’re in the minority.

You see, the entire argument is disingenuous. Conservatives wish to argue that “judicial activism” is Bad Bad Baddy Bad when it does terrible things like prevent discrimination against gays, but when judges, I dunno, enforce discrimination against gays they aren’t in any kind of agony about judges overruling legislative action.

But Greenwald says it better. And smarter. And with restraint. Which is what gets me hot.

Yesterday’s search terms

I just installed a new blog stats WordPress plug-in (the old one was slowing page load to an agonizing pace, so I uninstalled it, and I’ve been flying blind for a couple of months).

This one shows you daily search terms used to find your site. For yesterday, they were:

nathan fillion
dermot mulrooney
intelligentpeople.com worth
howdy
after he’d murdered shelley winters
handprint tattoo
birthday present trivia
clarice starling fbi training
what did ennis mean at the end of brokeb
controversies of body art

Um…?

What’s wrong with this picture?

My friend just had triple bypass surgery. He lives alone and has no family locally. He was discharged yesterday; probably too soon medically, but insurance companies are rat bastards.

So anyway, I brought him groceries and made him dinner. First night home from the hospital, I figured he’d be weak and needy and it felt good to be helpful.

So I discussed with him what he was eating and what he liked, and then I went to the store, and got him so breakfast muffins (I checked the fat and sodium on everything), some grape tomatoes, a thing of cantalope chunks, a variety of low-sodium canned soups, a couple of different juices, a think of cleaning wipes so he could clean up without staying on his feet too long, and a package of chicken breasts. (I grilled up the chicken when I got to his apartment, gave him a small piece of chicken with some tomatoes and melon for dinner, and refrigerated the rest of the cooked chicken.) So, you could say they were heart-healthy groceries.

Now, doing his shopping meant skipping my own shopping, so I quick grabbed a couple of things that we needed. So in a separate bag were Coke, donuts, and bacon.

Seriously. The anti-heart groceries. Fuck you, heart!

Name that actor: Whoosh, that was fast!

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Another Name That Actor Tuesday Trivia

Name the actor based on the roles (I sincerely hope I avoid using an actor from a previous entry, but I don’t keep a database of these things).

1. The captain of a downed plane, Wyatt Earp, an engaged man in love with his neighbor.
Solved (eventually) by Hazel (comment #9).

2. A nurse in a mental institution, a scriptwriter on a soap opera, a bank worker who receives a strange message.
Solved by Melville (comment #2).

3. An ex-con short-order cook, a real estate salesman, a diabolical law firm owner.
Solved by Melville (comment #2).

4. A charity worker in Africa (now traveling through Europe), a saint, a stage star in love with a married man.
Solved by George (comment #11) and by Hazel (comment #12).

5. A petty criminal with a bad limp, a serial killer, a pop singer.
Solved by Hazel (comment #1).

6. A cross-dresser, a nanny, the queen of a magical land.
Solved by Tom Hilton (comment #6).

7. A gay painter, a motivational speaker, a sitcom star.
Solved by fiona (comment #4).

Monday Movie Review: Rashômon

Rashômon (1950) 9/10
In feudal Japan, the story of a rape and murder is told from four different points of view: The bandit (Toshirô Mifune), who came upon a husband and wife, raped the wife, and perhaps murdered the husband, the wife, the husband (through a medium), and an eyewitness. The stories all contradict one another, and all the storytellers may have reason to lie. Directed by Akira Kurasawa.

This is my second Kurasawa, and I liked it better than Seven Samurai. While Seven Samurai has sweep and adventure, Rashômon is a human story, full of sorrow and dread, while still being thoughtful and contemplative.

The wrap story for telling these tales is this: A woodcutter and a priest were both witnesses in court; the priest saw the couple on the road shortly before the crime, and the woodcutter was the one who found the body. They are both deeply disturbed at the lies they have heard; for the priest, it is a crisis of faith.

Caught in the rain and sheltering in the ruined temple Rashômon, a stranger approaches and they tell what they have heard. The stranger listens with amusement; he is cynical and unperturbed by lying; after all, everyone is motivated to lie, that’s human nature. While a philosophical battle plays out in this downpour in this visually arresting ruin, the story itself is told. Again and again we see the bandit attack, we see the woman weep in despair while her husband, tied to a tree, is forced to watch. What happens next?

The story each tells is self-serving. It is an idealized version of the events; what each would have wished to happen. The bandit’s version is amoral but heroic, while the husband and wife each reach for dignity for themselves, while blaming the other. The movie focuses more on the unknowability of the truth, but to me, the rewriting of history to make oneself seem good is more compelling. Additionally, the woman’s story is full of dignity and pain. Her position in her culture is so low, so helpless, that virtually any action she takes is hopeless. Does she desire the bandit? Some versions would have us believe so, but is it desire, or turning to a man to escape shame, which is all she can do anyway? A loyal wife is expected to commit suicide for the “crime” of being raped, is it surprising she’s interested in alternatives? But then, is she interested? And what of the dead husband? Did he hate his wife for being “soiled,” or hate himself for being unable to save her? Or did he truly wish to fight for her honor?

The part that doesn’t work for me is that this story drives the two witnesses into such dreadful despair. Is this case really, as the priest says, worse than famine and plague? Is his faith as ruined as the temple in which they shelter? It is moving but perhaps a bit too much.

I’m just not upgrading WordPress

Seriously, if you want to come to my house and upgrade it for me, I’ll let you. I fucking give up.

Misogyny affects Obama as well

I went to eat, and CNN was on in the lunch room. Obama was in the middle of atown hall meeting in South Dakota, which I found fascinating. He was asking ranchers and farmers what their issues were, and discussing fuel costs and health insurance with fourth- and fifth-generation family farmers.

When the anchorwoman cut away to discuss what Obama had said earlier at that event about Bush’s foul Knesset remarks, she (I think it was Naamua Delaney, but I’m not sure), described the conversations as “Oprahesque.”

That’s right, talking to people makes Obama a big ol’ woman.

The radio news kind of makes it up to me

While I was out getting a sandwich, I heard the best news I’ve heard in ages. The California Supreme Court has overturned the ban on gay marriage as unconstitutional. I’m choking up just typing this.

Look, this is a turned tide. Just is. The bans on same sex marriage in other states are the thrashings of a dying dinosaur. This is how it is going to go. There will be setbacks. There will even be violence (like there hasn’t already?), but this is a done deal. In my lifetime, marriage equality will be the law of the land.

Okay, now I am choking up.